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Friendship

Feeling Rejected by My Former Shabbat Hosts
They don’t seem to have much time for me anymore.
Snubbed by a Cold Retort
I felt like I’d been slapped. “I was just being polite,” I answered and then shot out of the room…
My Teammates’ Competitive Streak Is Ruining the Game!
It bothers me to see them care more about the score than about how they are treating their fellow athletes.
Noisy Neighbor
He entertains large groups of people, who make a lot of noise in their interactive class, AND he uses a microphone and amplifier so that no one in the vicinity of 20 miles misses his life-altering lessons.
Should I Attend the Wedding of a Friend Who Snubbed Me?
After all these years of spurning my friendship when I was begging to see her, why should I even go?
Won’t Let Go
It’s very hard for me to let go of friendships or relationships. I am a very loyal person, and once I become connected, I want to stay connected.
9 Ways to Deal with Difficult People
Every single day I'm confronted with people who are angry, critical, demanding, needy, selfish, immature, inconsiderate and unappreciative
My Friend Won't Forgive Me
Whenever she sees me, she throws a fit of rage and shouts at me in public or leaves the event, claiming she can't be in the same room with me.
No One Listens to Me!
I consider myself to be a very attentive listener, but as soon as it is my turn to talk, people start reading, checking their phones or talking about something completely unconnected to what I’m trying to say.
Do I Have to Choose Between My Friends and My Beliefs?
When I try and explain my point of view, they say I'm intolerant, and they cast all kinds of aspersions on religious Jews.
Changing Friendships
Over the last few years, I have lost a few very close friends who perceived me as impatient and short-tempered.
4 Easy Steps for Dealing with Negative People
A woman in my social circles has an agenda to create conflict. I don’t know how to make her stop...
Am I Overstaying My Welcome as a Shabbat Guest?
I'm starting to feel uncomfortable about eating at the same families’ homes all the time.
I Lost My Friend to Suicide
I just found out that someone I was quite close with died by suicide. I am so shocked and overwhelmed by the news, but I am also feeling incredibly guilty...
Unhealthy Friend
I have a friend whom I have known for years. More recently, however, she has been really depressed and non-responsive, and seems to blame everyone else for her problems. I am concerned for her and fear that her recent behavior will really create major problems for her. But she is not open to any advice...
Terrible Rumor
I recently overheard a conversation where people were saying terrible things about a friend of mine. Meanwhile, my friend has no idea that this rumor is going around...
Unappreciated
Whenever someone is having a crisis, they call me. The problem is that I am also quickly forgotten. As soon as the person gets back on her feet, I seem to no longer exist. It is not that I want flowers or a gift, but I guess just some kind of acknowledgement for what I did to help...
Clingy Friend
Recently a newly married couple moved to our neighborhood and I wanted to make them feel welcome, so I brought them a cake and invited them over for dinner. They are extremely nice and friendly. The problem is that the woman now won't leave me alone...
Money & Friends
I recently lost my job and am struggling terribly financially. Meanwhile, my best friend for many years got married not long ago to a very wealthy man. While I can barely pay rent, they are jet setting around the world and she is constantly telling me of all her new gifts and purchases...
Is the Truth Always Best?
Years ago, when I was in high school, I did something very cruel to my best friend when we were fighting. It spiraled out of control and was far more damaging than I had ever intended. I feel like this is something that I will never come to peace with. Should I tell her what I did?
Friend is Embarrassing Herself
My very close friend recently gave birth to her first baby, and has had a really hard time losing the pregancy weight. The problem is that she has started wearing clothes that are too small on her and really make her look terrible. I would love to somehow let her know, but I don't know how to address it...
Friend Owes Money
I loaned some money to an acquaintance who was in a really desperate situation. I didn't ask for it back until I knew the situation was better, and then I emailed. I never heard back. I know Judaism teaches that you shouldn't bear a grudge, but don't I have the right to be angry?
I'm Scared to Tell My Friend I'm Pregnant
I am pregnant and thrilled over the news! The problem is that I am struggling with how to break this news to one friend who deserves to hear it from me, in person. This friend had a miscarriage about one year ago. Sadly, only six months later her husband died unexpectedly...
Cleaning for Passover
I am a student rooming in an apartment with another Jewish girl. Though neither of us is religious, I decided that I'd really like to be kosher for Passover this year, but my roommate is up in arms about having to do an intense cleaning...
Outgrown My Friends
I have a group of friends that I have been close to since we were in junior high school. Yet now that I am twenty-five, I am finding that we really have different interests and desires in life...
What to Say to a Friend Who Lost a Child
A friend of mine just recently lost her child in a car accident, and I haven’t called because I am just worried about saying the wrong thing...
Friend is Blindly in Love with Wrong Guy
My close friend is seriously dating a man that she is thinking of marrying. Granted, he treats her well, but he is rude to me, insensitive to others, has a quick temper and needless to say, doesn't have a good reputation...
Friend's Child is Terrorizing Mine
A good friend of mine invited us over for dinner and when I told my daughter we were going there, she started to cry and said this woman's daughter is the meanest girl in the school. I am not sure if I should tell her mother or not?
Jealous Friend
My best friend and I have always been like sisters, but the last few years it seems that she is incredibly jealous of me and I don’t know what to do. I want to share my joys with her, but instead I find that I am trying to downplay my happiness…
Unapologetic
My close friend recently accused me of doing something very hurtful to her and she will not speak with me until I apologize...How can I say sorry for something I never did?
Can't Say No
I've always had a hard time saying "no" to people. So everyone assumes that I'm always available. And when I need something, no one even offers...
Lying for a Friend?!
I have found someone I could marry, but there is a large block in the road. I am best friends with his sister, who has been involving me in a lie regarding a man she has been dating. If her brother finds out, I could lose this very special relationship...
Embarrassing Guest
There is a woman who, although good-hearted, is quite aggressive in the way she speaks to people and has offended friends of mine in the past by telling them how she thinks they should live their lives. I'm making an event in the near future...
Waiting for an Apology
I had a falling out with a close friend and feel I wasn’t at fault. I’ve been waiting for her to apologize, but she hasn’t. Finally, I am ready to forgive her, but I don’t even have that opportunity. I just want to put this situation behind me . . .
Unable to be Supportive
My best friend has recently been diagnosed with cancer. My mother died of the very same type two years ago. I want to be there for her, but I am so scared to go through all the pain and suffering again...
A Bad Match
My best friend has been dating a guy for a few months now, and she really seems to like him. The problem is that no one else does. Being that in the past year a number of us got married, we are concerned that she is with him just in order to be with someone...
Not Keeping Promises
I am a person who tries very hard to keep her word and be punctual. But I am constantly aggravated, frustrated and inconvenienced by people who don’t keep appointments, show up on time, pay on time or keep their promises.
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