Grave, Tombstone

Memorializing our loved ones is an ongoing process that doesn’t end with shiva. In this lesson, we will discuss the best way to help the deceased’s memory live on, how to create spiritual memorials, and the meaning behind the Kaddish prayer. Judaism views...

I have noticed that the graves of Orthodox Jews don’t have photographs on them. Is there a reason?

Question: My family is in the midst of planning an unveiling for my mother. My aunt would like to have flowers planted on the grave before the event. Is this acceptable? I have been to many unveilings and have never seen flowers. Something about it just d...

Where to get buried: In Israel? Together with family?

Question: My wife, best friend and soulmate for decades, passed away a few weeks ago. I have been going to the cemetery almost daily to visit her. Recently, however, a friend advised me, in a sensitive way, that a soul's true essence does not remain in th...

Question: I don't understand why we can't visit my dad's grave until after the first yahrtzeit. My parents were married for 45 years, and my mom is understandably very sad, and would like to visit already. Answer: I'm sorry to hear about your loss. May G‑...

Rochel Question: I was told that there is supposed to be some Hebrew letters on a memorial grave marker/headstone. We are planning a headstone for my deceased mother; can you help me with this? Answer: I am sorry to hear about your loss. I offer you the t...

Visiting the gravesite expresses respect for the departed, shows that their memory has not been forgotten, and reinforces one's connection to them. It is considered a great merit to pray at the gravesite of a loved one and that of a great Torah sage, for ...

Some Customs and Practices

The Jewish Cemetery... The Grave... The Matzeivah (Tombstone)...